I am all for the lady boss, boobs parades, girl power feminist pink fog that is over taking society. But I will be the last to support the phase of anti-sexy clothes, chopping our hair off and overall shift towards looking like a man. I understand what some women are going for in reducing the sexiness of our wardrobes in hopes of bringing back the mystery of a woman’s body. But ladies, doesn’t this defeat the purpose? We are equal to men in success and power as a woman; not as a woman trying to become a man. I’m pretty sure Susan B. Anthony did not fight for our right as women to vote so that we could then embrace masculinity and stop wearing make up.
I think as women we have come really far in the last couple years as no longer afraid to voice our thoughts and opinions and finally emerging as confident beautiful women who are proud of our bodies and not afraid to be sexy again. Thus the vastly emerging trend of the plunge neck line. What used to be considered slutty is now free and classy and elegant. And while I love this shift back to feminine clothing, restocking my closet is really taking a toll on my shopping budget.
Almost my entire closet is filled with oversized clothing from the “bohemian” trend that swept our nation in 2013. For years I refused to purchase anything that hugged my body or that I had to choose between covering my nipples or butt cheeks. This fashion choice was bread over years of too small of shirts and wearing my brothers hand me downs. (I rocked the hell out of Tommy Hilfiger sweaters and boys Levis.) So it really wasn’t until this past year living in the city and getting back to the body I wanted, that each time I wanted to dress a little sexier or classier I realized I had nothing to wear. The “running through the wildflowers” look wasn’t going to cut it anymore.
I felt stuck between a chic city style desire and a hippy college kids closet. But there is nothing in clothing that could make me happier then something that is free-flowing and no bra required. So I knew I had to take the plunge…see what I did there… and begin to restock my closet with confidence rather than with the desire of creating a void in my wardrobe with anti-body shaped clothes.
I found this Printed Plunge Wrap Dress on SheInside and it’s the perfect combination of hippy flow and sex appeal. The material is light and lays nicely but still has enough structure to hold correctly with an open back, plunge neck, front slits and cinched waste. And while I had more tape on my nipples then a second-grader’s craft project, I loved how the material laid making the open chest feel elegant rather than exposed.
You’ll still mostly catch me in yoga clothes and the oversized, shapeless, no bra needed dresses but I’ll definitely be mixing in my new confident pieces more often. Be confident in your voice and your appearance. Never let others tell you what you need to wear to be taken seriously or to be heard. Whether you wear pant suits, free flowing dresses or the sausage casing and stilettos, as long as you feel beautiful and good in your own skin, that is what matters.
I’m dedicating this post to my angel grandmother who I know would call me after reading this giggling that she would “totally wear that outfit” if she was my age. Love and miss you G
I wore this dress to brunch in DC, check out how it was!